Disagreement's

[Ravnis]

It is easy to have a disagreement about a way something is done or that information presented is incorrect. While I am far from perfect and sometimes put out something that is antagonizing, I do try to keep it civilized. Some questions you might ask yourself before arguing on a post:

1. What is positive about the post.
2. What is negative about the post. Or what exactly is it that I disagree about.
3. How can I disagree about the point without antagonizing the poster (this can be really difficult at times).

Realize there are such things as internet trolls that love to stir up things for attention. What hurts them most is people just ignoring them and not giving them that attention.

I am sure there are more "rules" that could be added. I think it is safe to say, that if you approach a disagreement from the perspective of "how would I want someone to correct me I was wrong" there will be a lot less hard feelings and result in more meaningul conversations.

Cheers and good luck to all.

[bsegravescollis]

Very early in my working life a friend of mine took me aside after I had tackled a really bad idea with great gusto. He said "The best way to deal with bad ideas is to kill them with faint praise."

[Cecil]

Very early in my working life a friend of mine took me aside after I had tackled a really bad idea with great gusto. He said "The best way to deal with bad ideas is to kill them with faint praise."

I love it!

[Pugo]

I have not used this yet.. But waiting for a troll to use it on..

[Pseudoreality]

Actually I read something that said the opposite to the standard don't feed the trolls moto. The best thing to do is reply to the facts in a non personal manner. If its just personal you can ignore, but fact based logical responses discourage future inflammatory statements.

[Pugo]

That would be nice, but you are talking about trolls and logical responses don't really discourage them from my experience they seem to seek attention or be on some kind of crusade which doesn't always follow logic..

[GaryD]

Hi,

After five years of operating this forum, and having noticed that people who are determined to be heard will generally ignore whatever rules we put in place, I've decided that the principal forum rule at APHQ is.....Thou shalt not attack a fellow APHQ member.

I also expect people who are pushing a barrow (ie....selling something) to extend the courtesy of asking me first.....or at least to make a worthwhile contribution to the forum before they peddle their wares.

Outside of that, people can pretty much say what they like......bearing in mind that we are a mixed gender forum with international membership.

Gary

[Cecil]

Actually I read something that said the opposite to the standard don't feed the trolls moto. The best thing to do is reply to the facts in a non personal manner. If its just personal you can ignore, but fact based logical responses discourage future inflammatory statements.

Makes sense but from my experience facts don't mean anything to a troll.

[Cecil]

Hi,

After five years of operating this forum, and having noticed that people who are determined to be heard will generally ignore whatever rules we put in place, I've decided that the principal forum rule at APHQ is.....Thou shalt not attack a fellow APHQ member.

I also expect people who are pushing a barrow (ie....selling something) to extend the courtesy of asking me first.....or at least to make a worthwhile contribution to the forum before they peddle their wares.

Outside of that, people can pretty much say what they like......bearing in mind that we are a mixed gender forum with international membership.

Gary

Gary,

You are a wise and patient man.